Golden retriever boyfriends and "ick" lists: Gen Z's dating standards are leading to constant disappointment.

Golden retriever boyfriends and "ick" lists: Gen Z's dating standards are leading to constant disappointment.

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“I’ve been idealizing this one man who will drop everything for me,” said Lea Veloso.

“Three strikes, you’re out,” she explained, reflecting on her upbringing immersed in fan fiction.Amidst a flood of fictional stories and endless dating content on her social feeds—from strangers sharing surprise bouquets to popular creator couples posting lengthy breakup announcements on YouTube—Veloso finds it increasingly difficult to appreciate the subtleties of the people she dates. The pressure to conform to certain dating ideals has become overwhelming.

“For so long, I’ve been dreaming of a man who would drop everything for me, know my preferences, and fit a perfect mold,” she admitted. “I think I’m constantly let down by real men.”

Gen Z has often been labeled as struggling in the dating world: young people are having less sex, meeting fewer new partners, and even feeling awkward about sending virtual roses on Hinge. They are considered the most rejected and loneliest generation. These trends highlight a major shift in dating culture, where social media increasingly shapes our romantic lives rather than reflecting them. For young women like Veloso, who have never dated without online influence, this means their idea of a “Dream Man” is built more from viral terms, algorithm-driven content, and shared online stories than from real-life dating experiences.

The vocabulary used is broad and constantly changing, often serving as a strict guide for navigating the chaotic world of heterosexual dating. There are countless ways to describe an ideal partner: a devoted, energetic man who adores you because he chooses to. Potential matches are judged on a scale of red to green flags, ranging from low effort and deliberate incompetence to receiving royal treatment from a genuinely eager partner, as described by women. Relationship success is sometimes tied to theories like the red nail or orange peel tests. Meanwhile, true love—whether portrayed as enemies-to-lovers or a slow-burn romance—is celebrated through popular tropes on social media.

“This focus on categorizing people into types you should date or break up with leaves little room for compassion,” noted relational psychoanalyst Cynthia LaForte.

This urge to create theories around the complexities of love echoes older dating advice from sources like Cosmo, Sex and the City, or Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. But LaForte points out that Gen Z uniquely tends to diagnose and clinicalize everything, often fueled by misused therapy language on social media.

“We’ve turned personality into a pathology,” LaForte said. “There’s a strong narrative about who to date and who to avoid, which minimizes empathy.”

TikTok creator Lexie, known as @spicycokezero, has gained popularity with videos like “3 Ways To Tell When They’re Being Friendly vs. Being Interested In You” and “3 Signs You’re Having a Friends-To-Lovers Dynamic.” The 19-year-old psychology major clarifies she isn’t an expert but started posting to share what she learned in class. Thousands have connected with her content.

“I often see comments from people who feel understood or gain insight into themselves or others after watching my videos,” Lexie shared. “Some have even told me my advice helped them start dating someone, realize mutual feelings, or ask someone out, which I love hearing.”

While some dating guidelines can be helpful, they don’t always lead to success. Nicole, 22, who preferred to use only her first name for privacy, mentioned that the last promising guy she dated never moved beyond the…The talking stage ended because of the first item on her personal “ick” list: “finds me intimidating.”

“As time passed, he repeatedly made subtle remarks about being scared of me, saying I’m intimidating and it makes him nervous,” she explained. It came across as an awkward flirtation—like when he asked her to plan the date in a complimentary tone—but Nicole wasn’t having it. “I told him directly: ‘There’s nothing intimidating about me. You feel intimidated because somewhere inside, you think I’m better, stronger, or smarter, and I don’t have time to make you feel like my equal.'”

“He had to go,” she stated.

When asked what kind of relationship she’s looking for, Nicole drew examples from TV and celebrities: George and Amal Clooney, Damon and Elena from The Vampire Diaries, and the turbulent but (minus the cheating) iconic dynamic of Mr. Big and Carrie Bradshaw.

“Simply put, I don’t want to be the one in charge in the relationship,” she said.

Nicole observed, “Everyone’s on board with holding people accountable… but it also overshadows the hopeless romantics.”

Whether you’re young or not, relationships are full of emotional pitfalls, and content about an ideal partner offers a safer path. But this means we’re all dating under a microscope, where every strength and flaw can be broadcast, judged, and used for engagement. There’s a huge appetite for others’ dating horror stories. Massive Facebook groups like “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” and apps like Tea were created to expose cheaters. Any questionable behavior can go viral, turning daters into infamous figures like West Elm Caleb, Couch Guy, or the man from Reesa Teesa’s viral 50-part TikTok series, “Who TF Did I Marry?” Online, whether the offense is compulsive lying or not looking thrilled enough when your girlfriend arrives, the judgment and condemnation process is the same.

“Social media terrifies me when it comes to dating,” Nicole admitted. “Everyone’s focused on accountability, which I fully support, and because of that, people are highlighting more abusive behaviors to raise awareness. But it also drowns out the hopeless romantics.”

It’s not just women crafting their ideal partner. Among creators who make dating content for men, there are plenty of terms for the perfect woman—whether it’s a “high-value woman,” a “black cat girlfriend,” or someone they can intentionally annoy. The Cut recently surveyed 100 men and found many ended things over their own “icks”: because she was a picky eater, too into Burning Man, didn’t like the book Nickel and Dimed, or deleted his ex’s profile from his Nintendo Switch, as reported by EJ Dickson.

LaForte noted that having dating guidelines, even if shaped by social media, can help clarify what you truly want when things get messy: “It can guide you, save time, and help hold yourself accountable.” But at the same time, treating dating like a checklist ignores its human aspect. “It can also be very reductive, reducing a person to a set of boxes.”

Veloso feels that the digital world overloads us with content about what love should feel like and how a love interest should express passion. So, she turns to otome games like Love and Deepspace—romance video games where players take on the role of a female protagonist aiming to build a connection with a male character.

“It’s a kind of love that feels safer than venturing into the real world and facing uncertainty about what kind of connection you’ll find.””It’s the kind of love you dream of,” she remarked. “I want a man who is entirely devoted to me and ready to protect our relationship with everything he has. But then, the harsh truths about men bring it all crashing down. This man can’t even discuss his own interests?”

For Veloso, it’s simpler to keep it all in the realm of fiction.

Frequently Asked Questions
Of course Here is a list of FAQs about Golden Retriever Boyfriends and Ick Lists designed to be clear natural and helpful

FAQs Golden Retriever Boyfriends The Ick List

Beginner Definition Questions

1 What exactly is a Golden Retriever Boyfriend
Hes a boyfriend who has the happy loyal and energetic personality of a golden retriever dog Hes enthusiastic affectionate a little goofy and always happy to see you

2 And what is an ick or an ick list
An ick is a sudden feeling of disgust or turnoff you get towards someone youre dating An ick list is a mental or shared list of these specific often petty dealbreakers

3 Why are these terms so popular right now
Theyve blown up on social media as Gen Z creates shared language to talk about modern dating experiences standards and disappointments

4 Is having a Golden Retriever Boyfriend a good thing
Generally yes Hes seen as a green flag because hes emotionally open communicative and makes you feel secure and appreciated

5 Are ick lists a healthy part of dating
It depends They can be helpful for identifying genuine red flags but they can also become overly critical focusing on trivial quirks that arent actually harmful

Deeper Dive Common Problems

6 What are the downsides of a Golden Retriever Boyfriend
Some might find his constant enthusiasm a bit exhausting or childish He might lack a bad boy edge which fair or not some people are initially attracted to

7 Can you give me some classic examples of an ick
Sure Common ones include bad texting grammar wearing flipflops with socks trying too hard to be deep or having a weird laugh

8 Why does it feel like my ick list is causing constant disappointment
When youre hyperaware of looking for icks you start noticing every tiny imperfect human behavior This makes it almost impossible for any real person to live up to your idealized standard