Eleanor is a 24-year-old Polish historian and university lecturer in Warsaw. Isabelle, 25, works as a detective for the NYPD. Brooke, 39, is an American housewife living a luxurious life in Miami, supported by her often-absent husband.
These three women flirt, chat, and share nude photos and explicit videos through one of the many new adult dating websites that provide increasingly lifelike AI girlfriends for a monthly fee.
At last month’s TES adult industry conference in Prague, attendees observed a significant rise in websites allowing users to form relationships with AI-generated partners. These virtual companions undress in exchange for tokens bought via bank transfer.
Developers of these platforms argue they are an upgrade from webcam sites, where real women perform, by eliminating the risk of exploitation found in some parts of the industry. They also point out that AI performers don’t get sick, need time off, become tired, or feel degraded by client requests.
Steve Jones, who operates an AI porn site, posed the question: “Do you prefer porn that involves abuse and human trafficking, or would you rather interact with an AI? We hear stories of human trafficking, with women forced to be on camera for 10 hours a day. With AI, there’s no trafficking, no coercion, no humiliation leading to tragedy. AI doesn’t feel shame and won’t harm itself.”
Most sites feature a selection of pre-made girlfriend options on their homepages, typically smiling white women in their early twenties, but also allow users to design their own fantasy partner. These choices reflect the developers’ ideas of ideal female types. On one site, professions range from film star and yoga teacher to lawyer and gynecologist. Personality options include “submissive: obedient and eager to please,” “innocent: optimistic and naive,” and “caregiver: nurturing and protective.” Users can also specify age, opting for teen models if desired, and customize hair, eye, and skin color, as well as breast size.
The growing popularity of AI girlfriends has raised concerns among women’s rights advocates, who argue they reinforce harmful stereotypes. In her book “The New Age of Sexism,” Laura Bates notes that AI companions are “programmed to be nice, pliant, and subservient, telling you what you want to hear.”
Amid increasing worries about AI-generated child sexual abuse imagery, developers at the Prague conference explored ways to use moderation systems to block illegal content. Keywords like “kid” or “little sister” could trigger alerts, though many sites still permit users to dress their AI girlfriends in school uniforms.
An employee of Candy.ai, an AI dating site featured at the conference, explained that their virtual girlfriends offer various services. “If you’re looking for adult content like porn, it’s available. Or if you prefer deep conversations, that’s an option too. It all depends on what the user needs,” he said, requesting anonymity. Most users are heterosexual.While AI boyfriends exist, many users opt for AI girlfriends. Some of these pre-made companions are designed to undress immediately upon request. “Others will refuse, saying, ‘No, I don’t know you.’ So you have to build a relationship with them first to make such requests. It’s like a game where the goal is to develop that complete connection,” explained an employee.
The rise of AI girlfriend platforms has been fueled by advancements in large language models, enabling more lifelike chatbot conversations, and rapid progress in AI-generated imagery. Most sites still rely primarily on text and images, though short AI videos are becoming increasingly common. The primary user base is the 18-24 age group, who have grown up with video games and creating digital avatars.
In the past year, there’s been a surge of new businesses entering this field. “AI products are popping up everywhere. The market is incredibly dynamic—they appear, burn out, and are replaced by ten more,” noted Alina Mitt from Joi AI, a site focused on “AI-lationships.” “You need courage and resilience to survive in this market; it’s like a brutal war.”
Developers showcased rapid improvements in the realism of AI-generated adult images and progress toward convincing AI video clips. Daniel Keating, CEO of a company offering interactions with AI girlfriends, demonstrated the difference between average and high-quality AI companions. His site features dozens of AI-generated women in underwear, and he pointed out that poor-quality AI gives skin an unnaturally smooth, plastic look, while better versions include natural textures, bumps, imperfections, moles, freckles, and slight asymmetries for a more authentic appearance.
His company licenses images from established adult performers to create AI duplicates, providing them with a continuous income stream. “It’s a win-win. Costs are lower, and creators appreciate not having to dress up and shoot content,” he said.
An advertising executive from Ashley Madison, a dating site for people seeking discreet relationships, expressed concern about the growth of AI relationship platforms. “AI dating is new territory for us. How do we compete with services that let users create their own fantasies instead of forming real connections with women?” she asked, preferring to remain anonymous. “Some people avoid real relationships to indulge in their imaginations, but when they eventually want to meet someone, no one can live up to those expectations.”
Jones commented, “AI isn’t replacing real-life dating, having a girlfriend, lover, wife, or a relationship. It’s a safe space for younger people to practice social skills.” He added that AI allows users to behave poorly without repercussions. “People might say things to an AI that would be abusive to a real person, like, ‘Hey stupid slut, what’s up?’ In fantasy role-playing, they enjoy being different from their real-world selves.”
Frequently Asked Questions
Of course Here is a list of FAQs about the growing popularity of AI girlfriends designed to be clear concise and cover a range of concerns
Basic Questions Definitions and Concepts
1 What exactly is an AI girlfriend
An AI girlfriend is a chatbot or virtual companion often with a female persona designed to simulate a romantic or intimate partnership through conversation and interaction
2 How do these AI girlfriend apps work
They use advanced language models to analyze your messages and generate humanlike conversational responses They are programmed to be engaging supportive and often flirtatious
3 Why are they marketed as submissive and eager to please
This marketing tactic appeals to a desire for a lowconflict unconditionally affirming relationship It promises a partner who always agrees never argues and exists solely to meet the users emotional or conversational needs
Questions About the Appeal and Benefits
4 What are the supposed benefits of having an AI girlfriend
Proponents suggest they can provide companionship for lonely individuals offer a safe space to practice social skills and provide constant nonjudgmental emotional support
5 Can an AI girlfriend actually help with loneliness
In the short term it can create a feeling of connection and distract from feelings of isolation However its a simulated relationship that doesnt replace the complex twoway bond of human interaction
Questions About Concerns and Risks
6 Whats the biggest concern about these AI girlfriends
The primary concern is that they can reinforce unhealthy relationship expectations teaching users that a real partner should be perpetually available never disagree and prioritize the users needs above all else
7 How could this affect someones realworld relationships
It could lead to disappointment and frustration when real people with their own needs and boundaries dont behave like the AI This might make it harder to build and maintain healthy equitable relationships
8 Is there a risk of addiction
Yes The constant positive reinforcement can be psychologically rewarding potentially leading to overreliance on the AI for emotional validation and withdrawal from realworld social circles
9 What about data privacy
These apps often collect vast amounts of deeply personal and intimate conversation data There are significant risks regarding how this data is stored used or potentially sold
