Zunubi ko nagarta? Yadda hassada za ta iya zama mai amfani

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Hakanan yana amfani da salon drop-cap ga harafin farko na waɗannan sakin layi a cikin jikin labarin da ke mu'amala.Rubutun da aka bayar toshe ne na zaɓin CSS, ba zance ba ne, don haka ba za a iya sake rubuta shi cikin Ingilishi na halitta mai gudana ba tare da canza ma'anarsa ba. Yana bayyana salon drop-cap da ƙa'idodin tazara masu alaƙa don abun cikin jikin labarin.Abubuwan pullquote a cikin jikin sharhi, babban jiki, jikin fasali, da jikin labarin an iyakance su zuwa matsakaicin faɗin 620px. Ana saita bayanan hotuna na nunawa a cikin babban abun ciki, kwantena na labarin fasali, kwantena na labarin daidaitacce, da kwantena na labarin sharhi zuwa matsayi na tsaye tare da cikakken faɗi da matsakaicin faɗin 620px. A kan allo mai faɗin aƙalla 71.25em, waɗannan bayanan suna canzawa zuwa matsayi na cikakke tare da matsakaicin faɗin 140px. A kan allo mai faɗin aƙalla 81.25em, matsakaicin faɗin yana ƙaruwa zuwa 220px. Abubuwan immersive an ƙirƙira su zuwa cikakken faɗin viewport ban da duk wani faɗin scrollbar. A kan allo har zuwa faɗin 71.24em, abubuwan immersive suna da matsakaicin faɗin 978px, kuma bayanan su suna samun 10px na inline padding. Tsakanin faɗin 30em da 71.24em, wannan padding ɗin bayanin yana ƙaruwa zuwa 20px. Tsakanin faɗin 46.25em da 61.24em, abubuwan immersive suna da matsakaicin faɗin 738px. A kan allo har zuwa faɗin 46.24em, ana matsar da abubuwan immersive zuwa hagu da 10px ba tare da gefen dama ba. Tsakanin faɗin 30em da 46.24em, matsar da hagu ta zama 20px kuma bayanan suna samun 20px na inline padding. A kan allo mai faɗin aƙalla 71.25em, ana matsar da hotunan nunawa a cikin jiki zuwa hagu da 160px. A kan allo mai faɗin aƙalla 81.25em, wannan matsawa ta zama 240px. A cikin labaran da ba na mu'amala ba, kayan aikin kayan daki yana mamaye ginshiƙin grid na biyu zuwa na ƙarshe kuma yana zama a jere na farko tare da matsakaicin faɗin sifili. A kan allo mai faɗin aƙalla 61.25em, an ɓoye ɗan farko na sashin meta a cikin kayan aikin kayan daki sai dai idan yana da ajin content__meta-container_dcr. Sashin take a cikin kayan aikin kayan daki yana samun 2px na saman padding. A kan allo mai faɗin aƙalla 71.25em, ɓangaren farko na sashin standfirst an sanya shi a gefen hagu. Ginshiƙin dama da ƙa'idar tsakiya da ke bin kayan aikin kayan daki suna farawa a jere na biyu na grid. A cikin jiki, hotunan atom waɗanda ke ɗauke da shimfidar labarin ko atom na hoto suna samun sifili block margin. Kayan aikin kayan daki yana da matsayi na dangi. A kan allo mai faɗin aƙalla 61.25em, yana zama grid tare da tazarar ginshiƙi na 20px, babu tazarar jere, da samfuri da ke bayyana yankuna masu suna don take, kanun labarai, meta, standfirst, da hoto a fadin ginshiƙai da jere da yawa.Rubutun da aka bayar code ne na CSS, ba zance ba ne, don haka babu wani jimla mai rikitarwa da za a sauƙaƙa ko sake rubuta shi cikin Ingilishi mai gudana. Idan kana so, zan iya maimakon haka bayyana abin da wannan takardar salon ke yi cikin Ingilishi bayyananne.A cikin waƙar ƙarni na 16 The Faerie Queene, hassada wata siffa ce mai ban tsoro da ke hawan kerkeci mai cin nama, tana baƙin ciki saboda sa'ar wasu kuma "wondrous glaof" wahalarsu. Ba hoto ne mai daɗi ba; gara a yi godiya ga abin da muke da shi fiye da yin tunani kan irin wannan mugun ji da ke lalata kai, ko? Wataƙila a'a. "Ina tsammanin lokacin da ba mu bincika hassada tamu ba, shi ne lokacin da take kai mu ɓata," in ji Dr Stacy Kim, masanin kimiyyar zamantakewa, kocin rayuwa kuma marubucin sabon littafin Envy: Why Wanting What They Have is the Key to Getting What You Want. Kim ta rubuta littafin bayan ta lura da yadda hassada ta taso ga abokan cinikinta na koyarwa da kuma yin tunani kan rawar da ta taka a rayuwarta. Littafin ya dogara ne akan binciken kimiyyar zamantakewa da falsafa, da kuma ƙwarewarta ta sirri da ta sana'a. Ga Kim, wadda ta kasance mai hassada tsawon rayuwa kuma ta ce gasar 'yan'uwa ta tura ta yin karatun PhD cikin sauri a fannin manufofin ilimi da jagoranci, hassada tana gaya maka "akwai wani abu mai muhimmanci a nan." "Hassada tana nuna mana manufofinmu," in ji ta, da kuma "abin da ke iya isa gare mu," tunda mukan fi yi wa mutane kama da mu hassada fiye da, misali, manyan taurari. Duba hoto a cikakken allo Misali: Ladabi daga Balance Amma ta yaya za ka juya hassada daga ji na ɓacin rai zuwa babban ƙarfi? Kim ta ba mu wasu abubuwan da za a yi la'akari da su. Wace irin hassada kake ji? Hassada ita ce "kawai son wani abu da wani yake da shi," in ji Kim. "Kowa yana hassada – abu ne na al'ada." Amma tana zuwa da siffofi daban-daban. A shekara ta 2009, masu bincike na Dutch sun bincika kuma suka tsara ra'ayoyin hassada "mugu" da "mai kyau." Hassada mugu tana faruwa "lokacin da ka mai da hankali sosai kan mutumin da ke da abin da kake so" har kana son "ka rushe shi," kamar mugun sarauniya da ta yi fatan kashe Snow White, in ji Kim. Hassada mai kyau, duk da haka, ta fi kama da sha'awa da ƙarfafawa: tana taimaka maka "ka mai da hankali kan abin da kake so," in ji Kim, maimakon ɓarna. Kishi, a gefe guda, wani wasa ne daban. Yawanci ya ƙunshi ɓangarori uku da barazanar rasa wani matsayi na musamman ko dangantaka ga wani mutum. Yaya za ka ji idan kana da abin da kake hassada? Na gaba shi ne abin da Kim ta kira "watakila mafi mahimmancin ɓangaren binciken": duba bayan abin da kake kwadayi zuwa ga "sha'awar da ba a taɓa gani ba" da ke binne a zurfi. Sau da yawa ba abin da kake kwadayi ba ne kawai ba, amma "ji da kake tsammanin za ka samu" lokacin da ka samu ko ka cim ma shi, in ji ta. Hassadar Kim ga mutanen da ke da manyan gidaje, misali, "da gaske ba game da gidan ba ne kawai," amma sha'awar gida mai kwanciyar hankali, marar cunkoso. Da zarar ka ambaci sha'awar da ta fi zurfi, za ka iya neman hanyoyi daban-daban don cika ta. Ga Kim, hakan na iya nufin kashe "ƙarin lokaci wajen tsaftace kaya." Idan kana da manufar da ba za a iya cimmawa ba, yi ƙirƙira; idan ka ji wani ɓacin rai kana kallon ɗan rawa mai shekaru 20 amma kana da shekaru 42 kuma ba ka taɓa ɗaukar darasi ba, ƙila za ka sha'awar iya motsi da ƙarfin gwiwa a jikinka. Darasin rawa na manya masu farawa zai iya taimakawa da hakan. Idan kana hassada ga matasa, za ka iya samun jin daɗin sabuwar ƙwarewar rayuwa mai albashi ta hanyar fita daga yankin jin daɗinka da gwada wani sabon abu mai ban tsoro, kamar ziyartar wata ƙasa sabuwa ko ci gaba da karatu. Shin ka ji "SIReNs"? Lokacin da ɓacin hassada ya same ka, kayan aikin Kim na mnemonics don sarrafa shi gajeriyar kalma ce: SIReN. Ga abin da take nufi: Makasudin kama: "Kana tunatar da kanka: 'Kai, dalilin da ya sa nake jin wannan hassada shi ne saboda abin da nake so yana iya isa gare ni,'" in ji ta. Sha'awar da ba a taɓa gani ba, kamar yadda aka ambata a sama Kwatancen da ya dace: Gano wace yanki ta musamman – wani abu da kake damu da shi ko ka riga ka shiga ciki – ya dace da sha'awarka Mummunan ji: Har yaushe yake dawwama? Yaya ƙarfin saƙon da yake aikawa? Wannan yana gaya mana yadda jin ɗin yake da muhimmanci. Sha'awar da gaske daga gare ka take – ko daga wani? Mutane "halittu ne na zamantakewa," in ji Kim, kuma wannan yana nufin sau da yawa muna kwaikwayon abin da kowa yake so – masanin Faransa René Girard ya kira wannan sha'awar kwaikwayo. Sakamakon haka, yana da sauƙi a faɗa cikin tarkon bin abin da Joneses ke yi, in ji Kim. Da abokan ciniki masu hassada, Kim tana son yin amfani da wata dabara daga masanin ilimin halayyar ɗan adam Robert Leahy wadda za ta iya taimakawa gano abubuwan da ka fi ba da fifiko: yi tunanin kai ba komai ba ne, fanko cikakke. Sannan, ɗaya bayan ɗaya, ƙara abu ɗaya a rayuwarka. Abubuwan da ka fara kaiwa gare su suna nuna abin da ka fi daraja. Lura da abin da suke – jikinka, iyalinka, aikinka, dukiyarka, ko wani abu dabam – da kuma tsarin da suka bayyana a ciki. A cikin ƙwarewar Kim, aikin yakan nuna cewa "zurfin dangantaka da mutanen da kake damu da su," yin hidima ga wasu, da aiki mai ma'ana su ne abin da mutane suka fi buƙata don yin farin ciki – ba sha'awar sama kamar mota mai tsada ko zama memba na ƙungiyar ƙasa ba. Za ka iya zama kusa da mutumin da kake hassada? Mutumin da kake hassada a yau na iya zama jagora, aboki ko abin koyi gobe. Idan ka san mutumin, in ji Kim, "yi wasu tambayoyi" game da yadda suka cim ma manufofinsu – "yawanci mutane za su so su taimaka." Idan hakan ya ji ba lafiya ba ko baƙo ne, Kim tana ba da shawara "bincika wannan mutumin." Idan ya dace kuma ka ji daɗi – misali, mai zane ne da ke da fom ɗin martani a gidan yanar gizon sa – za ka iya aika masa da yabo ko wasiƙar godiya don aikin da ya yi wanda ya shafe ka ba tare da "neman wani abu a madadin ba." Wannan na iya ji maka baƙon abu, kuma hakan abin fahimta ne. A Koriya, in ji Kim, kalmar 부럽다 (buleobda) tana nufin "Ina hassada ka," kuma "magana ce da aka yarda a yi amfani da ita" a matsayin farkon tattaunawa ta yau da kullum. Amma a Amurka, yarda da hassada na iya ji kamar fallasa da ban mamaki, ko da yake rashin lafiya na gaskiya zai iya haifar da alaƙa tsakaninka da wani. Gwada "Ina sha'awarka" ko "Ina matuƙar sha'awar sanin yadda ka yi hakan," maimakon. Shin ka gwada mai da hankali kan takwarorinka maimakon waɗanda ke 'gaba'? Hassada na iya zuwa daga mai da hankali kan mutanen da kake gani suna gabanka. Kim tana ba da shawara kuma duba, "Wanene ke bayana? Ko wanene ke gefena?" Lokacin da manufa ta ji kamar ba za a iya cimmawa ba, ko saboda rashin daidaito na tsari ko kawai rashin sa'a, za ka iya "haɗa hannuwa" da mutanen da ke cikin irin wannan yanayi, kuma nemi hanyoyin taimaka wa juna ci gaba, in ji ta. A madadin, ba da shawara don haɗin gwiwa da, raba bayanai da, ko zama jagora ga mutanen da ƙila a haƙiƙa suna sha'awarka da hassada gare ka na iya ƙara girman kai ba kawai, har ma da gina alaƙa masu amfani da samun girmamawar takwarorinka. Lokacin da waɗanda ke kewaye da kai suka yi nasara, "za ka iya mallakar wani ɓangare na wannan nasarar," in ji Kim. Tunani na wasa na sifili ko tunanin ƙarancin abu ba yawanci ba ne mai gamsarwa ko amfani don shawo kan ƙalubale, in ji ta. Haɗin kai na iya zama mafi kyau. Ƙara wayar da kan hassada ba yana nufin jin daɗin da ya rikitar ba zai shafe ka ba. Yana iya kasancewa koyaushe yana damun ka jin hassada ga wani mutum, har ma da fahimtar cewa kai abin hassada ne ga wasu; kamar yadda Kim ta ce daga ƙwarewa: "Kasancewar kana nazarin hassada ba yana nufin ta tafi ba." Amma duk da haka, har zuwa wani mataki, hassada ta zama ta al'ada kuma ba za a iya gujewa ba. Gane dal